….the feeling of empathy for others. The emotion that we feel in response to the suffering of others that motivates a desire to help.
Definitions are always a good start to any waffle aren’t they? At least the reader can then have some initial clarity.
I don’t want to go on or it’ll get boring for you but I might.
Recently I was in the company of a number of people who were unable to show compassion for an individual who wasn’t well. That person was chaotic and causing frustration to others in their company.
What struck me about this was that the group were, or are in a similar position for their families or friends as this lady was to them.
They had been living in chaos and those who love them the most were having to live with that. The very fact that they lacked compassion for this person brought to question that they had not yet addressed their own responsibility to their own disruptive illness and the affects it has on others. Something that is very important in their undertaking.
Acknowledging personal weaknesses is such an important stage in any growth or development of lives or life skills. We can then go on to look at how our behaviours affect others.
Thinking of an adult becoming a parent for the first time. We can all have some knowledge, emotions are naturally there but when that lovely little bundle of joy enters our lives we are flipped into disarray, chaos. We have to accept our vulnerabilities, learn new skills and how to help develop our bundle as well as ourselves and hopefully continue learning and keeping our growing new human safe and well.
Starting a new job, learning new skills, making mistakes. This is a time of chaos. We have to accept strengths and weaknesses, gain experience and develop work skills.
Is this the same as, maybe, someone in addiction who is trying to recover. Firstly, they have to accept they have an illness, that they have an addiction. Only, through the chaos and coming out the other side can they look at that disruptive state they were in, how they can get well and how they can take a responsibility for others. Are they capable of true compassion whilst in a chaotic state?
For the group I met, maybe that is why this individual was shown compassion only by a few and not the majority. Maybe only the few had addressed their period of chaos and how it was affecting others. Maybe they were the only ones able to…?
I know that the dramas I have written contain all the ingredients of troubled and addicted lives. These tools can help individuals to observe the disruption and conflicts addiction causes to those close to them.
Ask me about Off Her Facebook! Damaged Goods Gridluck and Sparrow’s Share or The Big A Trilogy and look out for the Off Her Facebook! Graphic novel, brilliantly illustrated by the very talented artist Jo Stroud.